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Burial or cremation?

General socialising and light-hearted discussions take place in here.

What should happen to your remains?

Burial with a permanent headstone
3
16%
Green burial
4
21%
Cremation
5
26%
Don't care
7
37%
 
Total votes: 19

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Firebrand
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Burial or cremation?

#1 Post by Firebrand » November 2nd, 2007, 10:46 am

Well the weekend is almost upon us and I thought a nice light-hearted subject to turn our minds to would be the kind of post death experience you'd like for your corpse. Personally, I love cemeteries but feel that permanent graves take up too much space and I have some concerns about cremation so I've become interested in green burials.

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#2 Post by Lifelinking » November 2nd, 2007, 10:56 am

I rather like the idea of a 'green' burial. Doing as little harm as possible both in life and in death seems eminently sensible.


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#3 Post by Alan C. » November 2nd, 2007, 11:52 am

I quite like the idea of a green burial, but I'll go for cremation cos it's easier, also I wouldn't want to disappoint all the loving Christians who have been telling me for years, "you're gonna burn"
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#4 Post by Zoe » November 2nd, 2007, 12:28 pm

Graveyards give me the creeps - I mean current ones, not ones in churchyards that are 'disused' so to speak. I accompany relatives on occasional pilgrimages to Hendon cemetery to visit family graves and I find it really depressing.

I was also disgusted recently to read about nutty teams of pyschic investigators visiting graveyards at night to conduct 'investigations'. I know it's only a place where dead people are buried but it still seems disrespectful to me. I'd be furious if any of them went near the grave of one of my family members.

I don't know about green burials. If I were to die tomorrow I'd have a cremation because it's against our religion.

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#5 Post by Fia » November 2nd, 2007, 1:02 pm

No exact box for me to tick, sadly - I have filed a body bequest form so medical students can learn anatomy from my remains. Provided I don't have a highly infectious disease or undergo post mortem the Scottish med schools will be delighted to have me.

After 3 years they will burn what's left, and my family can have the ashes if they feel the need.

I love the idea that I can still be useful after my death. My family understand and support my decision, so will have a memorial ceremony rather than a funeral. Chance to be more upbeat too, I would hope!

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#6 Post by Jem » November 2nd, 2007, 2:03 pm

I agree with Desmond though I haven't got as far as doing anything about it. I ticked don't care for the time being because I really don't have strong feelings about the disposal of my corpse apart from that I would like it to be useful.

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#7 Post by gcb01 » November 2nd, 2007, 4:17 pm

A. I do not care and b. I don't want to tie my relatives to something they would prefer not to do when the time comes. I'm happy for them to roll me out into the back garden and let the foxes and birds have a feast.
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#8 Post by Alan C. » November 2nd, 2007, 5:05 pm

A. I do not care and b. I don't want to tie my relatives to something they would prefer not to do when the time comes.
I forgot to mention in my first post, Mary and all my immediate family, know my wishes and are quite happy with them. :nod:
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#9 Post by Bryn » November 2nd, 2007, 6:08 pm

I'm another 'don't care'.

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#10 Post by Beki » November 5th, 2007, 9:28 pm

I feel quite selfish and old-fashioned now because I opted for a graveyard with a permanent stone. I like cemetaries and find them nice peaceful places to go and remember my loved ones. They are also interesting historically and in my wee village here, we can see which of the local familes have been here forever. (They are usually the ones with the aptitude for playing the banjo!) :twisted:

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#11 Post by Lifelinking » November 5th, 2007, 9:47 pm

I feel quite selfish and old-fashioned now because I opted for a graveyard with a permanent stone.

I can relate to your sentiments Beki. I love old graveyards, and often find myself strolling around them when I am on holiday. They can tell you a lot about the history of an area. An example of the kind of things this can get you involved in can be found here, with a story I ended up researching as a result of just such a stroll.


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#12 Post by Maria Mac » November 5th, 2007, 11:27 pm

I love old graveyards too though I'm not bothered about ending up in one. I ticked 'don't care'. Green burials sound good - though if you die in the middle of a snowy winter it may mean fewer people can come to witness your burial. Not everyone is up to trekking through thick snow.

One thing I like about old gravestones is spotting names that have gone totally out of fashion. My favourite one so far was down in Devon where I spotted a 'Temperance Luscombe'.

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Burial or cremation

#13 Post by Val » November 6th, 2007, 7:39 pm

My favourite name was Temperance Wild, in St. Andrews churchyard in Addingham, Yorkshire. Val J. in Burghead

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#14 Post by wizzy » November 8th, 2007, 6:54 am

I voted cremation. I agree with some comments above. Don't like graveyards and think they take up a lot of space, in theory I like the idea of a green burial, but it seems like a lot of hassle.

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#15 Post by jaywhat » November 8th, 2007, 3:54 pm

Voted 'Don't Care' because it will be nothing to do with me and will not be my problem - however I would strongly object (if I could) to a graveyard with headstone.
I feel headstones should be banned by law. Mind you, you do get a really good laugh sometimes when walking through an old cemetery and coming across a weed infested, totally neglected grave with a broken headstone and rubbish all over and the words -'Gone, but not forgotten'. I say definitely forgotten.
Having said all that I often walk through a local cemetery and sit and think and write in it and I guess I would miss that.

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#16 Post by Oxfordrocks » November 8th, 2007, 4:23 pm

Funerals are for the relatives.

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#17 Post by Moose » November 8th, 2007, 5:14 pm

I voted for burial with a permanent headstone but that was cos I pressed the option before I saw the green burial option .. so I want that one instead.

I know cremation is the greenest way of all - isn't it? - but I've always had a horrible fear of being burned alive and, tho I doubt it's ever happened, I still don't like the idea of opting for it.
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#18 Post by Diane » November 8th, 2007, 5:20 pm

I don't think cremation is considered that green these days, Moose. I'm not that well informed but all those burning corpses+coffins produce a lot of smoke....

Nevertheless I have picked cremation for a similar kind of reason. The idea of being buried alive is the biggest horror I can imagine.

Ain't it great to be rational? :grin:

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#19 Post by Moose » November 10th, 2007, 9:55 pm

LOL! Yeah :)

Burial alive is scary too but I would 'prefer' it to burned alive .. though obviously, I'd rather not be either! I think that it's highly unlikely these days that it would ever happen in a Western country, as we tend to keep bodies lingering around in fridges for a week or so before burial. In some countries tho, especially Muslim countries, the religion dictates that a corpse be buried within 24 hours .. can you imagine?! I would imagine that the chances of live burial must be huge, especially in countries where there are not advanced medical techniques available.
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#20 Post by Shake » November 16th, 2007, 7:41 pm

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