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Recurring dreams (or nightmares)

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Jaybird
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Recurring dreams (or nightmares)

#1 Post by Jaybird » July 26th, 2007, 7:09 pm

Does anyone else have any interesting or scary recurring dreams?

I frequently have dreams about being back at school and about to sit an exam. I also have the one about being out somewhere and suddenly realising I'm....immodestly dressed. :redface:

Another one I've had since I was a kid is about being a nazi soldier in in WWII. I can't imagine why I keep getting that one - I'm not particularly interested in the period and don't watch films or read books about it. Might I have been a nazi soldier in a past life?

Whaddya reckon?

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#2 Post by Maria Mac » July 26th, 2007, 7:56 pm

Jaybird wrote:Does anyone else have any interesting or scary recurring dreams?
Recurring dreams? OMG - how long have we got?
I frequently have dreams about being back at school and about to sit an exam.
Check. It's one of my most frequent nightmares.
I also have the one about being out somewhere and suddenly realising I'm....immodestly dressed.
I've never had this one but I frequently have a variation of it. Had it last night in fact. It's that I've set off out somewhere and I suddenly realise that I'm barefoot. I have to make a decision about whether to go back and get some shoes on or just carry on. I always decide to carry on and it's always the wrong decision because the ground is too cold or too hot or just too damn painful.
Another one I've had since I was a kid is about being a nazi soldier in in WWII.
I've had this one a few times but not recently. However, I am interested in the period, did it for my degree, watched films, read books etc.


One that I used to have loads was being chased by scary villains of some sort. However, it was quite an exilirating dream and I always got away.

The worst and most frequent dream I have is about my mother at various stages of her last prolonged illness. And I often have dreams about my Dad returning from the dead after 15 years.

A new recurring dream I've been having over the past year or so is about being on a subway train on a complicated rail network like the London Underground (which I know like the back of my hand) but everything's different. I don't know any of the stations or lines and I realise that I'm on the wrong train...

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#3 Post by Moose » July 26th, 2007, 7:59 pm

Wow this is really coincidental. I am ALWAYS dreaming that I am back at school and about to sit an exam - usually in a subject that I realise too late that I know nothing about (physics is a favourite :)). Just two days ago I was discussing dreams on another forum though and found out that this one is really common .. I had not realised :)
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#4 Post by Malcolm » July 26th, 2007, 8:10 pm

I sometimes have a dream about an alternative Glasgow with wide, tree-lined boulevards and elegant Georgian buildings and lots of street cafes. I only know it's Glasgow because the street names are the same.

A glimpse into a parallel universe, perhaps? It's a nice place, wouldn't mind living there.

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#5 Post by Lucretius » July 27th, 2007, 12:29 am

I have never had a recurring dream. Some recurring sex dreams wouldn't go a miss but not even that happens to me :-(
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#6 Post by para handy » July 27th, 2007, 10:25 am

According to this website, the most commonly recurring dreams are:

1. Flying
2. Being Chased
3. Unprepared for the Exam
4. Not Enough Credits to Graduate
5. You Lost Your Car
6. Your Teeth Fell Out
7. Climbing Uphill
8. Naked In Public


Of these, I get the flying one, which is usually great. I'm usually flying over the top of Manchester to get to a party that's taking place on the opposite side. And of course I can drink as much as I like and fly home again safely.

I sometimes get the climbing uphill one too.

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#7 Post by Moose » July 27th, 2007, 1:08 pm

I have the teeth falling out one all the time :). Or variations on it, where they don't fall out but go all brown and rotten or something.

I have the flying one too but that's cos I am scared of flying and have never done it.
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#8 Post by jaywhat » July 27th, 2007, 4:53 pm

When I took humanist funerals (which I do not do anymore) I would have never-ending dreams with everything possible going wrong. Loss of script, wrong crem, you name it - I dreamt it. Stuck in traffic, arrested for driving on hard shoulder, got there a day late, never got there, I will have to stop I am going mad and I am not even asleep..

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#9 Post by Jem » July 27th, 2007, 6:53 pm

Lucretius wrote:I have never had a recurring dream. Some recurring sex dreams wouldn't go a miss but not even that happens to me :-(
Those are the only recurring dreams I have.

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#10 Post by whitecraw » July 27th, 2007, 8:16 pm

I don't have any dreams, let alone recurring ones, sleeping as I do every night the sleep of the dead. (Well, of course: I do dream, as any trick cyclist will tell you. I just have no recollection of having dreamt when I awake.)

Weird, eh? Mind you, I might just be a brain in a vat, with my life being one long dream.

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#11 Post by kbell » July 27th, 2007, 11:20 pm

I've been having the being chased one recently. It's weird how it starts out scarey but then gets good as I discover an ability to leap from one rooftop to another...

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#12 Post by Bryn » July 28th, 2007, 12:29 am

I don't have any of those but I do have one where I'm falling and I think this is quite common. I also have one where I'm driving and have a crash and wake up.

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#13 Post by The ex-Alan » July 30th, 2007, 11:20 am

Hello folks – I’m new here.

A little Moose sent me from the EF Forum ( bless her antlers ).

There’s a dream I have every once in a while. It’s not a nightmare, just the opposite, it’s really very pleasant.

I’m living in this big house that I used to have a flat in. It’s on Oxford Road in Reading.

If I go out of the back gate a path will take me to all the places I have really liked, so one path takes me to Overdown Road in Reading ( a place with lots of lovely trees and pleasant houses ). Another path takes me through Botley in Oxford ( again lots of tree lined avenues and well designed houses ) another takes me past my grandparents house ( yes they lived on a tree lined avenue and the houses were really pleasant ) and on the way there is a small pub with a friendly atmosphere and my Grandmother drinks there ( she died many years ago ).

The house that I live in has many secret passages and each passage will take you to the hidden centre of the house where an old lady lives ( it’s actually the old lady from the film Fahrenheit 451, who set fire to herself ). She has the job of polishing these huge wooden cogs ( they are made of Olive wood ) and these cogs are the cogs that control the universe and all it’s movements.

When I wake up I feel very happy.

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#14 Post by Alan C. » July 30th, 2007, 11:40 am

I don't have any recurring dreams or nightmares (variety is the spice of life)
Alan, you seem to have an obsession with trees, it's a good job you don't live here.
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#15 Post by The ex-Alan » July 30th, 2007, 12:59 pm

Yeah I know. I've always liked the inner city trees, like Limes and Elms and most especially London Plane trees. I admit I've got a real thing about well constructed avenues and boulevards. I love the Plane trees on Charing Cross Road in London.

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#16 Post by Felicia » August 13th, 2007, 10:01 pm

I don't know if this is useful - but part of my daily work as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist is analysing my patients' dreams. The first thing I ask for is the patient's associations about details - who does this figure remind you of? What was the wall paper like? what colour is this or that? What's the weather like? What does it make you think of?

Another tip is that every character in a dream is a part of yourself. I have to be very careful about how to approach this with a patient. The monster comes from your brain, your imagination or unconscious, it is you, clothed in the flesh of someone you know because there's something of this person that is significant to you, something that matches you Therefore the monster that terrifies you in a dream is your own aggression, something that terriuies you to death because what would happen if you became as angry as you feel deep down.

At the centre of every dream there is an emotional core, and somehow the dreammaker in each of us obscures the core, usually because its too painful and difficult to be looked at fair and square. For that reason, dreams are healing. I'm always glad when a patient starts bringing me dreams, because I know things then are shifting, moving. Repetitive dreams are therefore very significant: what trauma cannot be processed and moved on from? The most damaged patients I see claim they don't dream. (Perhaps wary of revealing how vulnerable they are?)

An example: a very overweigh, highly academic patient of mine who had previously admitted to being a masochist, told me of a dream in which she is pursued by something very frightening, but she doesn't know what it is. She goes to a friend of her's and asks her what's going on. the friend obviously knows but can't tell her. The patient gets increasingly frantic and says she'll kill all the friend's children if she doesn't tell her what's happening. Then she's consumed with guilt, because these children are her godchildren - how could she threaten to do this? In guilt she turns away and starts eating herself....

This immensely complex and revealing dream showed so many aspects to herself: her murderous savagery which is turned against herself, so that she eats herself - the damaging masochism/overeating. Also the quest for knowledge which lead her to such success in the academic world. The figure who won't tell her what's going on - why can't she understand herself? This dream has turned up over and over again in her therapy.

I don't know if this is useful - but I would (professionally) recommend paying attention to dreams - as Freud said, the royal road to the unconscious.

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#17 Post by ranter » August 13th, 2007, 10:55 pm

Analysis please Felicia...
I have only ever had one consistent recurring 'dream', and I'd say I've experienced this nightmare for approx 30years. Not pleasant, but always consistent, which I find very strange indeed.
I am being bitten by a cat- a domestic cat. The scene is always the same, but the bites are either to the back of my hand, or to my forearm. Both excruciatingly painful, nonetheless! The cat digs its teeth deep into my arm or hand as I scream uncontrolably, and in my endeavours to writhe about in pain, the cat gets flung around like a rag doll! It's awful.
I think I can connect this to a story I heard when I was a child, but I'm very interested in hearing your analysis.
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#18 Post by Meathead » August 14th, 2007, 1:19 am

para handy wrote: 3. Unprepared for the Exam
4. Not Enough Credits to Graduate
Add another to the "Unprepared for the Exam" list.

I'm good for one of those two aforementioned dreams approximately every month. Thankfully, I've gotten so used to them that they don't bother me anymore.

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#19 Post by Felicia » August 14th, 2007, 8:05 am

Ranter - I would just suggest that you ask yourself questions like - what colour is the cat, how big is it, where does this attack take place (which room, surrounding etc). Also does it bite your right or left arm, are you right or left handed? What about the rag doll image? What was this story? Who told it to you? And any other questions you can think of about what happens in your dream. And the way you answered these questions, if you were my patient, would lead us into some other area of your life which may provide the source of this very peculair and distressing dream. Following my precept that everyone in the dream is a part of yourself, I would ask what is there in yourself which holds you back from action (particularly if you are right-handed and the cat attacks your right arm)? But really, as i say, it needs a dialogue between two to get the sublte nuances of language and imagery which are so fruitful in dreamwork - I don't think I can do it justice over the net.

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#20 Post by ranter » August 14th, 2007, 10:18 am

Felicia,
Thanks a lot for this. I'm intrigued. I will certainly ponder this in more detail when I have a bit more time, and may be back in touch, if it's ok. I am deeply curious about my recurring dream, but it no longer distresses me. Well, not in my conscious state anyway.

I had an extremely vivid dream last night about my mum. Mum died 4 years ago, and we were very very close. I dreamt that she was alive and things were much the same as they were before she died. It was almost as if I was stepping back in time.
Although I feel a bit wrung out this morning, I've taken comfort from the fact that I re-lived some quality time with my mum, albeit in a vivid dream. It was very real indeed.
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